Would you choose to have ADHD again if you could live your life over?

It’s a powerful question – and one I often reflect on, both personally and with the women I support in my coaching practice.

How does ADHD show up in your life, and how do you feel about it now, knowing what you know?

For me, the answer is clear. Yes – if I had the chance to live my life over, I would absolutely choose to have ADHD again.

That might sound surprising, especially given how misunderstood and stigmatised ADHD has been, particularly for women. But with knowledge comes perspective. And with perspective comes acceptance – and even pride.

These days, I see ADHD not as something to hide or fight against, but as a part of me that offers unique strengths. Creativity. Energy. Passion. The ability to hyperfocus on something I care deeply about. It’s taken time – and a lot of unlearning – but I no longer view my brain as something that needs to be “fixed.”

Honestly, being neurotypical seems a bit boring to me.

Of course, it hasn’t always been easy. If I could go back, I’d treat myself with so much more kindness. I’d recognise that my brain works differently – and that different doesn’t mean wrong. I’d set much clearer boundaries, pause before acting on impulse, and learn to be compassionate with myself far earlier.

Most importantly, I’d advocate for myself sooner. Because understanding my ADHD has given me the strength to speak up, to ask for what I need, and to stop apologising for who I am.

So now I’m curious – what about you?

If you could live your life over, would you choose to have ADHD again?